From the desk of Lori Aufderhar, Summit’s Director of Operations/Retirement Coach:
Home … a place to return after work or vacation. A place to feel protected from the storms of life. A place to relax, where you’ve got all the comforts of life around you.
When you get home, how do you feel? Do you feel protected from the turmoil and stress of the outside world? Do you feel at peace? How does your family feel in your home? How do your guests feel when they come to visit? Is it peaceful for all?
Some homes not only don’t protect their inhabitants from the storms outside the walls, there are circumstances within the walls that create more storms. Do you have someone or some situation at home creating a storm? Are you creating storms in your home?
There’s no reason to make life harder than it has to be for ourselves or anyone we’re in contact with.
It’s up to us to create the peace, it’s up to us to change it when it’s not peaceful. If you want things in your life to change, you have to be the catalyst to make those changes happen. You may need to speak up and say, “Enough!” This is a major cause of gray divorce: letting uhealthy things continue to go on and not speaking up.
Press pause for a moment. How are you showing up? Are you part of the solution or part of the problem?
What you don’t deal with deals with you. It is thought that 70% of disease is preventable. Stress, nutrition, exercise, and environmental toxins are the main causes. Focus on stress relief by creating a peaceful, clean, toxic-free environment at home. If you’re all stirred up about something, it’ll eat away at you. It’ll show up as tension in your neck and shoulders, or migraines, ulcers, and later can turn into cancer and heart disease. Think about how you deal with stress at your house.
Creating a place of peace and protecting our families from the storms in life, by keeping our homes a haven is essential at any point in life, but especially so in retirement.
What represents a peaceful home to you? Clean and orderly? It can be as clean and organized as can be and still have someone within or outside the walls “acting ugly.” I have a whole chapter devoted to that in my book “Not It” An Approach to Life.
A mess in the home may be what’s causing the storms within the walls. A clean, well-stocked, organized home can sometimes be just what you need to create peace. My book unpacks more ways to address this.
Peace be with you and yours in your home.
Copyright 2018 Lori Aufderhar