Finding Your Purpose: Roles & Goals

From the desk of Lori Aufderhar, Summit’s Director of Operations/Retirement Coach:

I was Dr. So-and-so, now who am I? When we are working, we get so caught up in who we are and what we do. We then judge each other and ourselves accordingly. Once retired – who am I now?

What is my purpose? What describes what I do today? I say “I’m a retiree,” yet that doesn’t feel quite right to some. “I’m more than that, right?” I’ve worked and accomplished my whole life and that word “retiree” doesn’t feel quite right. I hear from retirees, or those who are about to retire, say “It doesn’t reflect who I am and what I do.” Some retirees say they’re a busy grandparent, yoga instructor, or Home Depot paint expert. These are the retirees that avoid saying they are retired.

Looking up the definition of the word purpose, as a noun it means, “the reason for which something is done, created or for which something exists.” As a verb, purpose means, “to have one’s intention or objective.”

When seeking your purpose, whether you’re retired or not, think of your current roles in life and goals.  My role as a wife, mother, daughter, sister, or friend provides me purpose in a variety of ways:

  • As a friend, my purpose is to plan a fun outings, like going to Biltmore Estates, NC.
  • As a wife, my purpose is to create a peaceful loving environment within our home.
  • As a daughter, it may be to provide assistance with my parents’ finances, household projects, take them shopping, or visit and cook a fun meal together.
  • As a mom with children and grandchildren who are grown, it’s enjoying fun family visits to new restaurants or returning to family favorites. It’s helping with their home projects, like painting my granddaughter’s bedroom.
  • My goal as an author is to help others reach personal success.
  • My goal of living a healthy lifestyle is pursuing fitness activities and healthy eating.
  • My travel goal places me around the world.

We don’t have to look very far to know our purpose. It can begin with our daily routine of self-care and ripple out from there to our environment and loved ones. My purpose in taking the best care of myself that I can on any given day might be to floss my teeth, lift weights, or get out on the trail on a bike.

When it’s supposed to be different, we’ll know. A new situation will pop up. An interruption in our lives will show up. Opportunities will appear. It is in a place of peace, not of urgency, when we know it is right for us. When we are tempted to go faster is exactly the time to slow down.

Press pause. Reflect now on your roles, your goals, and define your purpose. Have fun.


Copyright 2018 Lori Aufderhar

2018-08-24T11:02:01+00:00By |Categories: Retirement Coaching|