From the desk of Lori Aufderhar, Summit’s Director of Operations/Retirement Coach:
We can get it in our heads that things need to be done a certain way or happen in a particular sequence. When that doesn’t happen, we can get upset. As we age, we can get more easily upset than we did when we were younger; we get set in our ways. It really doesn’t matter if “this” happens before “that” or if certain people are there or not.
Let’s be more flexible in our retirement years. Let go of what you think “has to” happen. Let’s be more flexible with each other, more compassionate.
If it works, it works. If it doesn’t, it doesn’t.
I realized this at a recent family event, where I was to pick up and serve a birthday cake at a certain time. I had it planned out perfectly, where we’d have a light breakfast, an early lunch, I’d pick up the cake, and life would be good, everyone would be happy.
Except that no one was hungry for an early lunch. One family member said, “We just had breakfast.”
A project came up at the home of a nearby family member, and it worked perfectly to rearrange the cake pick up, work on the project, get the cake, make lunch, and enjoy visiting guests for birthday cake.
Sometimes we get so stuck on a certain way and get upset when it doesn’t happen. Not worth it. Let’s recognize when we can be more flexible and lighten up.
This happens especially during the holidays. Traditions are great, yet some things change. Embrace the change. Enjoy your family and friends with spontaneity and lightheartedness. Let’s be grateful for those special times and events. Just have fun.